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[stgulik]

All the thoughts and feelings I experienced on the internet over the weekend concerning the same-sex marriage ruling have left me a tad bruised. I mean, I'm delighted with the verdict! But then I foolishly spent too much time Sunday reading everyone's opinions and comments. Now my head is positively stuffed with noise.

There are two kinds of office friends on days when your head is stuffed with noise. The first kind stops at your door and says, "How was your weekend?" and you say, "I hate everybody," and they say, "Oh, you poor thing, I'll come back around later," and you're left in wonderous peace.

The second kind stops at your door and says, "How was your weekend?" and you say, "I hate everybody," and they plop down in your visitor chair and say, "Oh, god, same here. So, what'd they do to you?" and then you both happily dish about injustices for half an hour.

Which kind of friend do you prefer? 

Comments

[akatnamedeaster.livejournal.com]

Depends on the particular frequency of the noise at that moment but then. I'm often up for a good bitch session so I would guess I would probably go with the second kind %99 of the time. Misery does indeed love company, after all.

[stgulik.livejournal.com]

I like them both, depending on the person, I guess!

[mimimanderly.livejournal.com]

The trouble with the second scenario is that it perpetuates the bad mood rather than alleviates it. By talking about it, you spread your negativity to the other person, and they spread theirs to you, thereby increasing the negativity exponentially. And it solves nothing. You're not solving whatever the original problem was, but only making yourself feel worse about it -- and justified in feeling so. Much better is the friend who just leaves you alone to stew. Turning inward for quiet reflection may put things in their proper perspective. Oddly enough, this answers a question I was dealing with overnight/early this morning. As is more often the case than not, I end up answering my own question when I answer someone else's.

[stgulik.livejournal.com]

I can see that. Unless chatting with the other person brings out the ridiculous aspect of being in a bad mood and turns everyone's respective moods lighter. Sometimes what works is being in a non-judgmental place with a coworker. However, the down side of the chat is, now the coworker knows your business. Hmm.

[candamira.livejournal.com]

Difficult question. Most of the times, I think I'd prefer the friend who wants to know. Why is sharing misery so appealing???

[stgulik.livejournal.com]

It really is!

[arcanetrivia]

I prefer being left in peace, but I don't get enough alone time in general, so there's that.

[nocturnus33]

Mmm difficult, I think I'd like #2 if we both are able to laugh at the end of our conversation and skip the page of misery